Negative cycles in the workplace can take many forms—recurring conflicts, unproductive communication patterns, or the silent tension that comes from unresolved issues. These cycles drain energy, erode trust, and impact performance. It is easy to believe that the only way they will end is if everyone changes at once. But real leadership means recognizing that change can start with you.

When you choose to act differently, you disrupt the pattern. If a conversation always turns tense, you can shift your tone, ask a new kind of question, or approach the discussion at a different time. If a teammate responds with sarcasm, you can remain calm and focused instead of matching the tone. These small, deliberate choices can create a ripple effect that gradually changes the dynamic.

Breaking a negative cycle often requires patience. The other person’s behavior may not shift right away, and that can be frustrating. But your consistent, intentional responses send a clear message about the standard of interaction you expect and are willing to uphold. Over time, this consistency can influence others more than direct confrontation alone.

It also takes self-awareness to avoid slipping back into the old pattern yourself. When tension rises, it is tempting to respond the way you always have. Pausing to choose a better response, even when you feel justified in reacting, reinforces your role as the steady presence in the situation.

Believing in your power to break the cycle changes how you approach challenges. Instead of waiting for others to improve, you focus on what you can control. That mindset not only improves your interactions but also models accountability and leadership for those around you.

The truth is, change often starts with one person willing to lead by example. By stepping out of the cycle first, you create space for healthier communication and stronger relationships to grow.

Our Core Program helps leaders build the skills and resilience needed to take that first step toward positive change, even in the face of resistance.

~by Michelle Cummings, Founder & CEO, Personify Leadership

Tip/Tool for Implementation: Don’t wait for others to change. Your actions can break the cycle today.

Leaders who believe they can stop negative cycles take proactive steps to shift the tone and direction of interactions. By choosing better responses and modeling constructive behavior, they create space for healthier communication and improved relationships, even if others do not change immediately.

Supportive Research: “Are ‘Doom Loops’ Ruling Your Workplace? How to Stop the Negativity” — Forbes (September 2023)