By Michelle Cummings
One of the biggest challenges leaders face is knowing how to move a team forward when momentum stalls. In our Eyes of a Leader module, we help leaders develop a clear, compelling vision—and just as importantly, identify what might be pulling their team off course. This is where the Drain Model, developed by Dr. Carl Larson and Frank LaFasto, becomes such a powerful leadership tool. Based on over a decade of research with thousands of teams, their model doesn’t just explain what slows teams down—it reveals why.
At the heart of the Drain Model is this idea of energy and focus. Larson and LaFasto describe three types of energy that a team needs to reach its goals: Mental, Physical, and Spiritual. Mental energy is your team’s collective knowledge and problem-solving ability. Physical energy is the stamina to do the work. But spiritual energy? That’s the one we overlook most often. It’s the emotional drive, the passion, and the shared commitment that keeps people connected to the goal—and to each other.
Here’s the part that really stands out to me as a leader: you can assign tasks that require mental and physical energy. But you can’t demand spiritual energy. It doesn’t come from authority—it comes from inspiration. That kind of energy is influenced by how well a leader connects to their team, how clearly they communicate purpose, and how they show up when the pressure is on. If your team is feeling drained, chances are it’s not just about burnout—it’s about disconnection from purpose.
This is why clarity of vision matters so much. According to the research, two things must happen for a team to move forward: First, the goal must be clear. Second, all three types of energy—mental, physical, and spiritual—must be aligned toward that goal. If even one of those is missing or scattered, the team will stall, and progress will slow. Leaders who can clearly communicate the destination and rally energy around it are the ones who create sustainable movement.
In our Eyes module, we challenge leaders to look beyond what’s visible. If your team seems distracted, low-energy, or off track, don’t just push harder. Pause. Ask yourself: Is the goal clear? Is the energy aligned? And most importantly—am I inspiring spiritual energy, or just assigning tasks? These questions create the space for awareness, alignment, and renewed focus.
The Drain Model reminds us that leadership isn’t just about doing—it’s about energizing. Teams don’t move because we push them. They move when they feel connected, focused, and inspired. So the next time your team feels stuck, don’t force your way through. Clear the path, refocus the energy, and lead with vision that lifts people—not just leads them.
Watch this inspiring interview I conducted with Dr Carl Larson on The Drain Model, and how it connects to our Personify Leadership Core Program.
By Michelle Cummings
Founder, CEO & Chief Creative Officer
Personify Leadership
We all want to believe that good intentions make good leaders. And intention does matter—it’s where leadership begins. In our Heart of a Leader module, we focus on leading from a place of care, connection, and integrity. But intention alone doesn’t always shape the experience others have of us. That’s where the gap begins—the space between what we meant and what actually happened. That’s the intention–behavior gap, and we’ve all felt it on both sides.
Research by Rhodes, Pfaeffli Dale, and Mansell explores this very gap, showing that the strength of an intention plays a key role. Strong intentions are more likely to predict consistent behavior, and they tend to hold steady over time. But they also come with a risk: when an intention becomes too rigid, it can close us off to feedback or new perspectives. A leader may be so focused on achieving a goal that they stop noticing how their behavior is landing—or whether it still reflects their original values.
That’s why, in the Heart module, we teach leaders to pay attention to their signals—tone, posture, word choice, and energy. These are the silent messengers that often speak louder than our intentions. You may want to support your team, but if your voice is tense or your body language feels rushed, your intention won’t come through. This is where the Signal Check tool comes in. It’s a simple pause to ask, “What do I want people to feel right now, and does my presence reflect that?”
Another key strategy is using Intention to Impact thinking. Instead of just setting a goal, we encourage leaders to ask: What experience do I want others to have? This kind of reflection helps shift the focus from task to relationship, from outcome to impact. When we connect our intentions to how others feel and perform, our leadership becomes more human—and more effective.
And of course, none of us will get it right all the time. We will miss the mark. What matters most is noticing when our signals don’t align with our purpose and choosing to realign with intention. That choice, made moment by moment, is where trust is built and credibility is earned. Leaders who regularly reflect, adjust, and lead with heart make it easier for their teams to do the same.
Bridging the intention–behavior gap takes more than good ideas—it takes awareness and practice. But when leaders are willing to pause, reflect, and stay grounded in what truly matters, their actions begin to match their values. And that’s when leadership becomes transformational—not just for the leader, but for everyone they influence.
By Michelle Cummings
Founder, CEO & Chief Creative Officer
Personify Leadership
Trust is the foundation of leadership—but it’s tested most when pressure is high. In the Heart of a Leader module from the Personify Leadership Core Program, leaders are taught to lead with clear intention: to act in the best interest of others and stay aligned with their values. Authenticity is not just about being “real”—it’s about showing up in a way that reflects who you are and what you stand for, even in difficult moments.
When stress rises and uncertainty creeps in, teams begin to look to their leader for cues. This is when trust is either reinforced or quietly eroded. The Heart Module challenges leaders to ask, “What signals am I sending?”—through tone, posture, presence, and action. If those signals match a leader’s stated intention, it builds stability and confidence. If they don’t, even small gaps in behavior can shake a team’s sense of safety.
Leaders who are aware of their signals and take time to reflect before acting are more likely to stay in alignment. When team members feel that their leader is grounded, honest, and consistent—even in high-stakes moments—they feel safer, more motivated, and more willing to speak up. That emotional safety is key to team engagement and performance. As the module teaches: people don’t just hear your intention—they feel it.
Of course, no leader gets it right every time. When trust is strained, it doesn’t have to stay broken. Leaders have many opportunities for making things right—starting with listening fully, owning the impact, and clarifying your true intention. Leaders who take responsibility and follow through with consistent actions don’t just repair relationships—they deepen them.
In times of pressure, your authenticity becomes your greatest tool. Teams thrive when they can trust that their leader’s values won’t disappear under stress. Leading with intention, acting with integrity, and staying present in the hard moments—that’s how authentic leaders build lasting trust.
~Michelle Cummings
Founder, CEO and Chief Creative Officer
Personify Leadership
Leadership isn’t just about what you say. It’s about how you show up—every day, in every interaction. Your body language, tone, and energy send signals long before your words land.
Think about it: Have you ever walked into a room and felt tension, even before anyone spoke? Or trusted someone more simply because they looked calm, open, and engaged? These are leadership signals. And people are reading them, whether you mean to send them or not.
Your team is constantly asking themselves:
- Can I trust this person?
- Do they mean what they say?
- Do they care about me?
If your tone doesn’t match your intention—or your posture shows frustration instead of curiosity—you may be sending the wrong message. That’s when misalignment happens, and trust starts to erode.
Try This:
Before your next one-on-one or team meeting, pause.
Ask yourself:- What’s my intention in this moment?
- Does my body, face, and voice reflect that?
Even a 30-second reset can shift how others receive you.
Leaders who are aware of their signals—and adjust them to match their values—create safety, trust, and stronger relationships.
So, how are you showing up today?
True leadership starts with the courage to communicate openly, with clarity and conviction. But great leaders don’t just speak—they listen, adapt, and make sure their words truly connect. In our Voice of a Leader module, we don’t hold back. We dive deep into what it means to communicate effectively, because your voice shapes your team’s trust, alignment, and ultimately, your success. This is about finding your voice—authentic, unfiltered, and purposeful—and using it to build a culture where everyone feels heard, respected, and inspired to do their best work.
The Voice module within the Personify Leadership program focuses on developing leaders’ communication skills to inspire trust, clarity, and connection within their teams. This module emphasizes the importance of clear messaging and effective listening to ensure that leaders can convey their vision, expectations, and feedback with impact.
At its core, the module teaches leaders to understand and apply the sender-receiver communication model. Leaders learn to tailor their communication style to match the preferences of their audience, especially when interacting with diverse team members. A key tool used in this module is the DiSC assessment, which helps leaders recognize their natural communication styles and adapt accordingly. Through this approach, leaders gain insights into how their words, tone, and body language impact others, enhancing both understanding and rapport within the team.
By the end of this module, leaders are equipped to communicate purposefully and responsively, fostering an environment where team members feel heard, valued, and aligned with organizational goals. The Voice of a Leader is not just about speaking—it’s about listening, adapting, and building a culture of open and effective communication.
Our Personify Leadership course teaches skills in this area, where we focus on being a leader who communicates a message that resonates with those who receive it. Let me know if you are interested in learning more about this; we’d love to talk with you! Our next Open Enrollment class is December 10-11.
Questions to ask yourself:
- Do you adapt your communication style to diverse team personalities?
- How does communicating in a way that resonates with your receiver help build rapport with your team?
- How does understanding the DiSC communication model empower leaders to build stronger relationships with their team members?
If you are interested in building more skills in this area, consider registering for our next Open Enrollment course.
Whether it’s a change in season, our homes, or our teams, most of us are fascinated by makeovers. I know I spend way too much time watching the HGTV channel myself. From magazines to trainings to television shows, we all drink in reinventions of almost every conceivable thing: rooms, closets, cars, bodies, even relationships. Why? Because aside from a little silliness here and there, makeovers are particularly instructive. They offer a window into the process of transformation, the whys, the hows, and the actions that bring it about. Wanting to do something better… it is an outer expression of an inner desire.
On the one hand, change can be fun and anticipatory. As mentioned above, reinventing or refreshing a space can be creative and invigorating, and the change of seasons to Fall welcomes cooler temperatures and the beauty of the changing leaves. On the other hand, change can be really hard. Especially if the change is not something you wanted or anticipated, like the people devastated by Hurricane Helene, the passing of a loved one, or a relationship ending badly. There are also many massive changes going on in the world right now, such as our impending election and unpredictable war-torn areas of the globe.
When we experience changes outside our control, like those mentioned earlier, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. But this is where understanding an “Internal Locus of Control” can make a difference. By focusing on the things we can control, we shift our perspective from helplessness to empowerment. Sure, we may not be able to control natural disasters or global conflicts, but we can influence our personal reactions and decisions. This mindset helps keep us grounded amidst uncertainty, allowing us to take small, intentional steps that make a big impact in our immediate environment. Whether it’s creating a more positive atmosphere at work, maintaining our physical well-being, or simply offering a kind word to someone struggling, these are all areas where our actions matter. Rather than getting swept away by the forces we can’t influence, staying anchored in the things we can directly manage helps us remain resilient and proactive in the face of change.
Our Personify Leadership course teaches skills in this area, specifically in the Mind of a Leader module, where we focus on emotional resiliency. Let me know if you are interested in learning more about this; we’d love to talk with you! Register for our next Open Enrollment class.
Questions to ask yourself:
- Q1: How can practicing an internal locus of control help leaders maintain resilience during organizational changes?
- Q2: What small, daily actions can help reinforce a focus on things within your control, even when larger situations seem overwhelming?
- Q3: How can teams be encouraged to focus on the elements they control during high-stress periods at work?
What would you add to this list?
If you are interested in building more skills in this area, consider registering for our next Open Enrollment course.
At the core of successful leadership lies intention—the purpose behind every action a leader takes. This month we’re focusing on the first of our eight competencies, the Heart of a Leader.
The “Heart of a Leader” module in the Personify Leadership program emphasizes this, helping leaders align their intentions with their actions. Leaders who consistently focus on their team’s best interests build stronger connections and foster trust within their organizations. This trust, formed through intentional and transparent leadership, is the foundation of effective and respected leadership.
Understanding the signals you send is essential to ensuring that your actions reflect your true intentions. Often, a leader’s behavior sends unintended messages, leading to misalignment between what is said and what is done. In the “Heart of a Leader” module, leaders are encouraged to become more aware of the signals they send. Whether leading a team meeting or giving feedback, a leader must ensure their actions reflect their intent to support and uplift the team, not just drive personal success.
Trust in leadership also hinges on the “Law of Reciprocity.” As leaders, the signals you send and the actions you take will often be mirrored by your team. This reciprocal relationship underscores the importance of setting positive examples and leading by example. Leaders who prioritize the well-being of others often find their teams responding with increased loyalty, dedication, and a shared commitment to organizational goals.
Ultimately, intentional leadership is about aligning personal, team, and organizational interests. Leaders must regularly reflect on their actions and their impact on those they lead. By doing so, they can foster a work environment built on trust, where every team member feels valued, respected, and motivated to contribute. Leading with intention ensures that a leader’s heart is always in the right place, guiding their team toward collective success.
Questions to ask yourself:
- Q1: How can you become more aware of the signals you are sending to your teams?
- Q2: What practical steps can you take to build a trust-rich environment using the Law of Reciprocity?
- Q3: How does aligning personal and organizational interests benefit long-term team success?
What would you add to this list?
If you are interested in building more skills in this area, consider registering for our next Open Enrollment course.
Have you ever found yourself in a position where you loved your company and team but found your boss incredibly difficult, even unbearable? You’re not alone! I ran across this study by DDI that suggests that 57% of people have quit because of their boss — and 37% reported that they’ve considered leaving because of their manager.
When I read this study, I found that number to be staggering, and it made me think of the difference between the titles of ‘boss’ and ‘leader.’ In my opinion, when it comes to a boss vs. a leader, the difference often lies in how you make the people around you feel. Bosses take power and keep people subdued. Leaders empower and elevate people to new heights.
Here are the different behavioral traits of Leaders vs Bosses:
There is a popular saying that goes: ‘People quit bosses, not jobs,’ and I wholeheartedly believe this.
Being a boss is not the same as being a leader. “Boss” is a given title, but “leader” is an earned responsibility. And knowing the differences not only impact your business for the better but also — and more importantly — your employees’ lives. At Personify, we focus on the core competencies of what makes an effective leader, and we would love to help you with the essential skills for being an effective leader.
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